Your a liar. I’m a liar. Were all liars. Everyone tells white lies about themselves so how do you spot the online dating liar, since we can agree that most everyone is a bit deceptive. First off, why doesn’t everyone come completely clean about themselves? Well my experience is that you need to lie enough to get to coffee but also not to lie too much not get in bed. What I mean by this is that site like Eharmony and Chemistry.com, with there surveys and questions and more surveys and more questions…man does this take forever… does a good job at matching, that people do find love and end up happy.
But it always boils down to what you look like, or more specifically what your pic looks like. Sure what you write is important, long or short messages, when to ask out, when to exchange numbers, but I can tell you, If a guy thinks you look hot in that pic, he will have no problem meeting you, regardless of what you say. Seriously! For guys though, girls really do care about what you write. With girls I would say the profile pic is 90% of the battle and as long as you don’t say anything stupid your in. Kind of like in real life if you think about it, but you need to focus on that last 10%, your approach and how you sell yourself do matter.
Guys are Creepy
So I meet this very cute Brazilian Au-pair (type of foreign exchange student program) of a dating site and we went out for a nice evening in Darien CT. Since I write Super Awesome Dating I am always curious to get a female perspective on dating and online dating, this whole crazy process. First off, she told me that they don’t do online dating in Brazil. There is enough culture and social events that meeting people is easy, in contrast to the US. Once your out of High School and College, the most obvious question if your single is how the heck do I meet quality people? This is why online dating is so popular here.
She told me about her first experience meeting a guy off a dating site. The guy she meet she thought he was really cute, blond hair, blue eyes, said he was 6 ft and 180 lbs. So she meet him at a cafe one night. The “date” if you can call it that lasted a whole 5 minutes. Why? Because guys are creepy that’s why! The guy showed up and he was not a 6ft blond blue eyed white guy, he was a 5 ft 7 in Indian dude. I was a bit shocked by this. Why would any guy think that’s a good idea? Remember what I said:
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