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Guys that suck – Bad Dates you want to Avoid

guys that suck - types you want to avoid

An important part of dating is not just simply getting out their, it is knowing who to date and who NOT to date. Unfortunately for girls, many many guys simply suck at dating, the results are bad dates you want to avoid. Often times when I talk to girls about their concerns, a lot of recurring themes pop up.

For starters, men are not gentlemen anymore. Something as simple as opening the car door can go a long way with a girl. Most of the time, it just never occurs to a man to do that. If you need more of a hint, then I’m telling you to OPEN the car door for your girl. It works. It is always the little things that make or break dating. Another complaint when I get into online dating,  is three fold:  guys are either way to aggressive, move to fast physically, and act like babies if rejected.

When messaging  a girl on a dating site guys, never ask her to meet you in the first two emails. Never bring up intimate stuff, that includes “wow I like your pic, you have nice legs”… big turn off, and if you send a message and she never replies, GET OVER IT and move on. Do not send hate mail, that is acting like a baby. Maybe you aren’t cute enough for her, maybe you didn’t capture her with your message, maybe shes burned out from online dating. Maybe she gets tons of email, a lot of girls do.

You were offended? Your feeling were hurt? You need me to warm your bottle, and get your blankie? Seriously though, you have to understand that girls on dating sites get a ton of messages. Imagine getting 15 emails a day, most of them are simply “hey”, “your cute”, or “lets go out this Friday”. Online dating, girls get way more attention and have to deal with guys that suck.  From my experience, girls are not nearly as obnoxious; but I was curious about the female view point. So here is what I did.

I signed up at Singlesnet and made a female profile with a very attractive pic of one of my female friends, with her permission of course! The results? I let the profile sit for 5 days. When I checked in, I had an incredible, 100 + emails. Unless your a male model, or Ashton Kutcher. No guy on any dating site gets 100 emails. From this perspective, It is completely reasonable why a girl wouldn’t reply to your individual email. Most guys out their, try this out, it will teach you a lesson, and maybe make you think twice about sending that hate male to the girl who wouldn’t talk to you.

So girls, guys that suck – bad dates you want to avoid. Lets get crackin, here are some red flags when it comes to dating guys: Read More…

How to Spot a Cheating GirlFriend

cheating girlfriend How to Spot a Cheating GirlFriend

Truth is, girls can be just as bad as guys and the thing is, is that a cheating girlfriend is a bit more sneaky about it than a guy. So how do you spot one? Here is what I think. Infidelity is kind of like an epidemic, I’m sure you or someone you know and love has been affected by it!  Cheating nowadays seems to be the cool thing to do as on average 25% of men cheat and 17% of women cheat. Not exactly uncommon.

Sure, men are more unfaithful than women, men are dogs; but women? No women never cheat…yea right! More and more are having an illicit affair out side of their relationship.

So you oblivious men out their, wake up and be more observant and sensitive to what is going on. Here are some red flags to make it easy to spot:

Girls like to look sexy, but if all of a sudden shes way more into how she looks, is much more concerned by it, then you should be concerned. If she all of a sudden she is more critical of the way you look or dress, that’s also a red flag. It means shes losing interest in you, and is looking to get attention from other men.

She’s not as physical with you as she used to be. Not as much sex, not that into sex. Having sex with you is a bit of a choir. Not really into holding your hand in public, or letting you put your arm around her, even kissing is a bit off. Chances are she is not that into you anymore and is after someone else. For girls, reduced intimacy: not that into you, looking for something else.

One reason or another shes busy. Women are masters of making up fake excuses. Remember that girl you asked out, and she told you she’ll let you know when things slow down? Ever get back to you? No? Thought so. That’s a girls way of saying “no, I’m not interested”. If a girl is not interested in you she won’t just say it, she will make up an excuse because girls avoid being direct partly because there nice, but also because they don’t have the strength to come out and say it as it is. The same excuses are also used with a cheating girlfriend. She has to always work late, or shes going out with a couple of co-workers after work all the time. She is hanging out with her sister more often (hint shes not hanging out with her sister) or is having a girls night out. Girls like to go out, but the man in her life will always come first. If you feel like your coming in second that is because you are. Read More…

How to Spot a Cheating Boyfriend

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You love your boyfriend, he’s just great isn’t he? While at the same time in the back of your mind your quietly worrying about the relationship. What if he isn’t so great, and is actually a cheating, dirt-bag boyfriend? Like the saying goes, girls need a reason, guys just need a place. Typical men. Dating  is built on trust, so what if you don’t trust your man and suspect your boyfriend is cheating? Here are a few super awesome signs:

Be sucpicious of Social Media.

The Internet is for porn and social media these days. Finding someone online is not that difficult, especially with dating sites and Facebook apps, instant messenger, and forums. When your dating someone, it is actually quite difficult to meet someone new because your dating and typically spending all your free time with each other. Social media is an outlet for a guy to meet someone new without you knowing about it.  Who’s in his IM list? Check his browser history, has he been on a dating site recently? A little digging can go a long way. Be careful though, if your man is innocent and finds out you were snooping around, there are going to be problems. Respect your  man’s space with in reason.

Schedule change. What you didn’t know?

Were all creatures of habit. Guys form a routine and stick to it.  While some men may be spontaneous, this is not true for the day to day stuff.  So if their is a sudden change, without you knowing why, that’s a red flag? You shouldn’t jump to the conclusion that something is up, but as before, do a little digging around. Work hours increase or did he join an organization like Toastmasters, or did he make a new gym schedule? Though were habit forming, things change and you have to adapt. Just be tuned into whats up. The most important part is how you found out. Were you told or did you have to ask?  Read More…

He has not slept with enough girls yet

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I have been dating this guy for almost a year now and at the start of our relationship he said he felt like he hadnt slept with enough women. Its been months after but i still feel like he thinks about this a lot and that the more serious we get the higher the chances are that he will cheat. What do you guys think? and i would like a mans advice and comment on this as well! Thanks

This is a problem. If a guy has strong feelings for you, it won’t matter how many girls he has been with because he would love you and not want anyone else. Why? Because no one else would compare to you. Even if you were his first. No exceptions. You said you have been dating him for about  a year? So ask yourself, does he still feels this way? If your not sure then find out, ask his friends, and ask him. If he is dumb enough to tell the girl he has been dating for a year that he still has a desire to have sex with more girls, then it means he loves you but is not in love with you; and yes he will cheat if the opportunity presents itself. I have written about when to end a long term relationship, and it might be the case of that your in love with him, but he just likes you and is too much of a wuss to break it off for fear of being alone. However, if you ask him about it and he says, I love you, your the only one for me (and so forth) then you don’t have that much to worry about. Read More…



Some of these signs of cheating are “tongue in cheek” while others are tell-tale signs that commonly appear with a cheating significant other.

Numero uno: number one sign that an affair is happening is a change in sexual needs. Humans are animals with simple urges, we get hungry, need to drink and like having sex. Our arousal levels don’t suddenly change unless something is wrong. If you have noticed that amongst other signs your partner seem no longer interested in intimacy with you as regularly as he or she once did, especially if it happens all of a sudden, than that should raise the red flags.

Red Flags

1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you’ve had a vasectomy.
2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.)
3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.
4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn’t tell you about it.
5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the
evening smelling like Safeguard.
6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.
7) She buys a cell phone and doesn’t let you know.
8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.
9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill.
10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls/ text messages, etc…from the caller ID. Read More…