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Internet Dating and Super Awesome lying

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Your a liar. I’m a liar. Were all liars. Everyone tells white lies about themselves so how do you spot the online dating liar, since we can agree that most everyone is a bit deceptive. First off, why doesn’t everyone come completely clean about themselves? Well my experience is that you need to lie enough to get to coffee but also not to lie too much not get in bed. What I mean by this is that site like Eharmony and Chemistry.com, with there surveys and questions and more surveys and more questions…man does this take forever… does a good job at matching, that people do find love and end up happy.

But it always boils down to what you look like, or more specifically what your pic looks like. Sure what you write is important, long or short messages, when to ask out, when to exchange numbers, but I can tell you, If a guy thinks you look hot in that pic,  he will have no problem meeting you, regardless of what you say. Seriously! For guys though, girls really do care about what you write. With girls I would say the profile pic is 90% of the battle and as long as you don’t say anything stupid your in. Kind of like in real life if you think about it, but you need to focus on that last 10%, your approach and how you sell yourself do matter.

Guys are Creepy

So I meet this very cute Brazilian Au-pair (type of foreign exchange student program) of a dating site and we went out for a nice evening in Darien CT. Since I write Super Awesome Dating I am always curious to get a female perspective on dating and online  dating, this whole crazy process. First off, she told me that they don’t do online dating in Brazil. There is enough culture and social events that meeting people is easy, in contrast to the US. Once your out of High School and College, the most obvious question if your single is how the heck do I meet quality people? This is why online dating is so popular here.

She told me about her first experience meeting a guy off a dating site. The guy she meet she thought he was really cute, blond hair, blue eyes, said he was 6 ft and 180 lbs. So she meet him at a cafe one night. The “date” if you can call it that lasted a whole 5 minutes. Why? Because guys are creepy that’s why! The guy showed up and he was not a 6ft blond blue eyed white guy, he was a 5 ft 7 in Indian dude. I was a bit shocked by this. Why would any guy think that’s a good idea? Remember what I said:

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How to get your EX back

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You broke up. SO you want to know how to get your ex back? Well grab something to drink and do a little reading because I am about to tell you. First off, its more complicated and we need to break down the different types of breakups. Who did the break up and what were the circumstances around the destruction of your relationship. It should be clear, dating a guy is different from dating a girl, and dating a girl is different from dating a guy. First off lets go over some basic things for both sexes.

Keep contact directly after the break up to a minimum

Breaking up sucks, it is emotional and both of you are not in a clear state of mind. When someone is your ex, let them be your ex for a while so you can collect your thoughts and think more rationally about what happened. Take one of my friends, lets call him James (its not James btw). James is a decent guy, dated this girl for over a year, was never really sure about his feelings for his girl. His girl though, was in love with James. The two were going about there relationship nicely, until his girlfriend bought a condo and asked James to move in. James hesitated. Thoughts ran through his head :

Living Together: Engagement: Marriage: Rest of his life: A Very Unhappy James

So James, instead of being a man and breaking it off with his girlfriend,  made up excuses as to why he wouldn’t move in. Frustrated with James, not simply over this issue, but also a culmination of reasons. Which can  basically be summed up as James inability to be the man she wants, because he never really wanted to be her man in the first place. Went out with two guys she just meet at the condo complex she just moved into. Two guys Jame never meet. Can you guess what happened? Yep she cheated on James. Relationship over.

Now, James never even wanted to date her really, but now he is all messed up in the head, wanting to know how to get your ex back. The moral of the story is that you need time apart from one another. Sure they may start dating someone else, but usually rebound relationships are full of problems. Spending time apart is the best way to ensure you get your ex back. Take a few months, don’t call, don’t text, don’t ANYTHING. This is what I told my friend James. Time apart allowed him to clear his head, and realize that he never wanted to be with her in the first place. He was just being emotional. Next Up: Read More…

GirlFriend Keeper, love on autopilot

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The Iphone has a crazy amount of apps, the “girlfriend keeper” might be one of the more fun ones. You can pick it up for a buck (.99 cents us). First off, the app’s name is pretty ironic as it shows off nicely the emotional capacity us men sometimes have.  When I set this one up, that Jay Z song, “Girls Girls Girls” kept playing my head for some reason.

Keeping up with your girlfriend can be such a pain, “you don’t say nice things like you used to” your girlfriend is always telling you. Well this app attempts to fix that, and is either a fun and silly take on flirtation or its the most lazy way to say I love you! You set up the app to send generically customized texts, e-mails, or both to your special person, and all you do is sit back and relax and let the app take care of all that emotional stuff women love.  Nothing says ”thinking of you” more than an auto responder! Head’s up to the play playas out their. Girlfriend Keeper It is set up for one person at a time, so don’t buy this app and plan on managing multiple girls. Although, I suppose you could keep one on autopilot with this and really work over someone new. I’m sure in the future they will update the app for multiple relationships. Also, the app also keeps a history of all the love notes you sent, might not be a bad idea to read through once in a while what you’ve been sending. Read More…

Communication in the Car

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Some of your most important talks and decisions happen in a car. We’ve all had those talks, the kind that you turn off the radio, you just kill the motor and sit and talk for another half hour.

Really important stuff like deciding to move in together, breaking up, giving ultimatums, who knows maybe even some marriage proposals for sure! This probably lead both parties too similar conclusions: Read More…