Welcome to a very thorough post on how to talk to girls. Thanks for reading, I appreciate you being here. Lets get right to it. This post is targeted at guys who are searching Google on tips and tricks on how to approach beautiful girls they see in school, at bars, at parties, the grocery store, whatever. I know what attracts girls and I know how to approach and talk to them, so listen up, and follow my lead. If you have an opinion, I would love to hear it in the comments.
Before you approach a girl, pay attention to her surroundings. Why? Because you do not want to come off like your bothering her. That your interrupting her. You do not want to be that annoying creepy guy. Perfect example. My brothers wife is a very beautiful woman and I saw her shopping at our local Walmart. On my way over to say hello some random guy just wanders over to her and asks “Have you seen The Waltons” then proceeds to ask her how she likes Walmart (she was in the video section). While it is great this guy had the confidence to approach her, his approach was just dumb. He should have had a least a little bit of consciousness of what she was doing, instead he just rudely interrupting her. Now I know this may seem pretty obvious to some of you out their, but trust me, I have seen enough guys do this. Attempting to talk to a girl by simply wandering over saying “hey babe how you doing their, come to Walmart often”, then touch her or do something stupid. How romantic. If you want to talk to a girl, approach her when she is not preoccupied, busy, or looks like she is stressed and thinking about something.
Next step for talking to a girl is to know what your going to say before hand. This step is sort of like a crutch. It will sort of feel fake at first, but the end goal is to make you more comfortable talking to girls, and to NOT to come off as a pre-recorded robot, a nervous wreck, or a clueless dolt. This may seem counter intuitive since I’m telling you to memorize things to say, but once you automate this part, it is one less thing you have to worry about. Now, I don’t mean that forever and ever, that when you talk to a girl you should give each girl the same line over and over. I just want you to START NOW with talking to girls. Over time, as you become more comfortable with talking to a girls you don’t know. You will need to rely less and less memorization as it will become more natural for you. Like having training wheels on a bike. In addition to that, you will naturally develop a list of topics to talk to girls about. You will know if she say this, I should say that, if she does this, I should do that. Reading up on how to talk to girls is a great training manual, but the only way you will make any progress is in the field. Do I memorize everything I say? No of course not. I’m confident in myself and have gone through the training and testing part. I have internalized what works for me, and discarded the things that did not. You need to do the same, so get started NOW.
How To Talk to Girls at Bars
Beautiful girls are NEVER alone. They travel in groups with other guys or girls when out to bars. Now, this may surprise you but the best way to meet a single girl is to approach the one that is accompanied by other guys and girls. Why? Because no other guys will approach her because all other guys assume she is taken and don’t want to get into a fight with the men she is with. Even though she is single, no men approach her, which actually makes it easier to approach her. This takes a lot of skill so if your a rookie when talking to girls you do not know, best hold off on this till you have a little more confidence. Here is how you approach her.
Don’t come off like you have an agenda. Instead of approaching her, approach the group. Acknowledge the men, and start a conversation with the group. By acknowledging the men, they will most likely be cool with you. What you need to do is literally go over and say “hey guys, I have to get back to my friends, but I was wondering what you thought of X”. What is X? Whatever you want it to be. After they talk and answer your question, next ask “so how do you know each other”. Then they will say “oh this is my fiance”, or “oh this is by boyfriend”. If that is the case then you say ok thanks have a good night, nice meeting you. However, most of the time they will say, “we all have the same class together”, or “we all work together”.If that is the situation, now you know she is single.That is step one. The next step on how to talk to girls is to understand that while you and your buddies my be out to pick up girls. Girls are not always out to pick up guys. Their out to have fun (duh)! As such, always keep your energy level at or above where they are. You do not want to be a drag on their night out. That means you have to be authentic, happy, and confident. Not nervous, quite, and fake. This is the hard part, but if you want to talk to a girl in a group with other men in it, you have no choice. Just start practicing it. You will be terrible and awkward at first, but over time you will get better at it. The reason you say “I have to get back to my friends” is because it helps disguise your agenda. It also give you an exit, and it prevents the conversation from being awkward. If you do your job correctly and demonstrate fun and value, when you do say, “OK I have to go back to my friends now”, they will say “wait whats your name?” When that happens, its on like Donky Kong.
Approaching girls with other girls is more difficult because they may seem like the easier target, but actually every guy is after them. Making for some stiff competition. As such, their is nothing you do directly. They will let you know if they are interested in you by projecting out signs they want you to approach them. Like making eye contact with you. If you see she is constantly looking your way and your interested in her, stop what your doing and go over and approach her. If not, you will find yourself being that weird guy who just keeps staring at her all night. Remember, attraction is not a choice and by the time you decide you approach her, she will already have made up her mind about weather or not she is attracted to you.
How To Talk to Girls in Class
This is the easiest way to meet girls in my opinion. Class starts and you need to start talking to girls from the get go. Scan the classroom for girls your attracted too and make it a decision to start talking to them within the first week. The advantage of a class is that you see them regularly so you can develop a relationship a bit more slow and naturally, and you also have some thing in common already built in. “Why you taking this class” ,”what is your major”, “what have you heard about this teacher”. Do not wait for the right moment, because it will never come. Make it a point to talk to the girl your interested in on week one. So by the end of the class three months later, you have a relationship on some level with that person. Be it romantic or friendship. Remember, attraction is not a choice. No one has to tell you that you should be attracted Jessica Alba. You just are naturally.
So, if you want to learn how to talk to girls, follow the advice I have given. Step outside from the person you perceive yourself to be, and act like that person you want to be. Try new things, test them out, see how they work for you. Every guy is different and you have to be yourself most importantly and embrace who you are. If your a serious intellectual, then don’t pretend to be a frat boy. Have fun at this as it will be a learning experience for you. Do things you never would normally do. Just don’t lose sight that this process should be fun. Go out and have fun. Don’t go out for the sole reason to meet girls, go out to have fun. Meet girls as a one off of having fun. Internalize the big picture steps of what I have told you, so when that girl comes by and your like “who is that?” You will be equipped with the skills to talk to her, that is how you talk to girls.