Dating is an art and a skill and not every man out their is particularly brilliant at it. I will be blunt, some guys just suck at dating, and their are types you might want to avoid if your a nice gal looking for someone who is worth your time. Of course losers, creeps, and weirdos are not on any one’s list of perspective matches, but why then do girls date loser, creeps, and weirdos? Because they think the man is something he is not. When you like someone you ignore the personal character flaws and just pay attention to the things you like. From surveying girls about common complaints when it comes to dating their are some recurring themes we should get into.
The first complaint from girls is chivalry is dead. This is then normally followed up with the question on how to make men more gentlemen like. Something as simple as opening the car door can go a long way with a girl. Most of the time, it just never occurs to a man to do that. So OPEN the car door for your girl. It will make the right positive impression with her. Next, chivalry is not dead, you just have to start expecting him to open the door. Men can be trained to do what you want. If a man’s heart is in the right place for you, he will do what he needs to, to make you happy.
It is always the little things. The little things make or break dating, since it is the little things that show if your paying attention and if you really care. Another other common complaint that keeps popping it’s head up over and over again is three fold: guys are either way to aggressive, move to fast physically, and act like babies if rejected. Guy’s are to aggressive, reject him if he approaches you the wrong way. Guys do move to fast sexually with women, however it takes two to tango and until the clothes come off you have all the power. Lastly ignore men if they act like a baby if you reject them, they were never worth your time to begin with.
Some Online Dating Advice for you Inexperience Men
When messaging a girl on a dating site , never ask her to meet you in the first two emails. It is weird and creepy. Do you want to be weird and creepy? Then do not do it. Next, never bring up intimate stuff early on in the conversation with a girl you just meet or are messaging. That includes “wow I like your pic, you have nice legs”… big turn off, and if you send a message and she never replies, GET OVER IT and move on. I know rejection is painful and unfair, but you must learn to deal with rejection like a man. You will be rejected over and over so suck it up and let it slide, it really is not that big of a deal. Do not send hate mail if a girl chooses to not talk to you. Act like a man, not like a baby. Lastly, deal with it, yes maybe you are not cute enough for her, maybe you did not capture her with your message, maybe shes burned out from online dating. Maybe she gets tons of emails and yours was boring and generic. She has no obligation to talk to you, you two are strangers in all reality.
Also, you have to understand that girls on dating sites get a ton of messages due to the nature of online dating. Imagine getting 15 emails a day, most of them are simply “hey”, “your cute”, or “lets go out this Friday”. With online dating, girls get much more attention and have to weed through and disqualify men they feel do not meet the qualities they are looking for. Girls are not nearly as obnoxious as I have heard men are, since I am a man who has used online dating sites in the past; but I was curious about the female view point. So I decided to go undercover. Here is what I did:
I signed up at Singlesnet and made a female profile with a very attractive pic of one of my female friends, with her permission of course. The results? I let the profile sit for 5 days. When I checked in, I had an incredible, 100 + emails. Unless your a male model, or Ashton Kutcher. No guy on any dating site gets 100 emails. From this perspective, It is completely reasonable why a girl would not reply to your individual email. Now I am not recommending you go out their and start making fake profiles. I just did it for research and it taught me a valuable lesson of what it is like to be a woman on a dating site. I sincerely hope I convinced you to think twice about sending that hate male to the girl who wouldn’t talk to you.
Guys that suck – bad dates you want to avoid.These are some behavioral signs you should be on the watch for:
There is a fine line between protectiveness and admiration, and a control freak. Answer these questions. Does he:
- tell you what to wear
- who you can/cannot spend time with,
- how to drive
- Is particularly jealous
- calls all the time
- buys your love with gifts, cards, flowers
- Insistent about making plans
If yes to most of these, have you yourself thought of him as controlling?
The jerk is a bad boy tough guy. Charming and fun, bold and strong. You want him and so do many other girls.
- There a lot like the controlling type
- Has anger management issues
- Is a bit narcissistic
- Lacks empathy
- One sided relationship. (You have to do all the work. You have to call, you have to make time, you have to be affectionate
Is your date secretly someone else’s husband? Ever wonder why he mixes up your name sometimes, or why those kids keep calling him daddy? Yea, here are some other red flags:
- Do you know where he lives? Oh he won’t tell you?
- Lets go out in a group of friend! Oh wait he avoids the topic of friends?
- He never makes time for you?
- You two never really go out out, as in to a movie, or dinner by the lake. It’s always “lets hang out at your place”?
The loser Type
Likes to drink and party a bit too much, not much in the way of ambition, or a job. Their idea of a good time is staying out all night, and sleeping all day.
- Flips out on other people for small things. Like yelling at the teenage at McDonalds for his burger having pickles, or flipping out on another driver.
- Misses work a lot
- Is generally unhappy and depressed.
The Worth your Time Type
Cute, and you have a connection with him. Plus he has a job and ambition. The worth your time type is tough to find because he is a decent guy, and any girl with half a brain would not let go of him if they caught him. Hopefully you will have some basic level of attraction between the two of you. How to know if a guy is worth your time:
- Is considerate of your feelings. They really do want to know how you are.
- There self reliant. They don’t want you to take care of them, and they don’t want to take care of you. A meeting of equals.
- Running your life is not something they want to do because their too busy running their own.
- They don’t try to change you or FOR you. They are happy with what they are and what you are, and want to meld the two together.
- The man has ambition and drive. He knows what he want and is taking steps to make it happen.
Opening up is apart of the game. We all want to be liked, yet we all understand that their are simply some aspects of the way we look, the way we act, and the way we think that may prevent this. Be it our religious beliefs, our genes, or the way we were raised. Unless we open up, were not going to get anywhere with anyone. What is going to happen is that you will just end up with a bunch of friendships at best. So when you get to know a guy, pay attention to some of the listed traits above. Hopefully you will find a guy that is worth your time and heart and also avoid the bad dates with guys that suck.