Is it…flowers once a month? Nice effort but no. OK how about flowers once a week. Very thoughtful Mr Romantic but again no. Alright how about flowers everyday with a card having the words “I love you” cut out of a newspaper? You sir, are a stalker (don’t cross the line of creepiness).
How could sending her flowers NOT be a good way to show you love her? Don’t get me wrong it is a good way, but what your not getting is the underlying reason WHY it is a good way. In our head, regardless of it being real or fake, their is a burden as a man to provide and protect. This is our way of demonstrating our love and commitment for the women in our life. This is done through work obviously, and work for men is not simply work, it is who we are and it is how we define ourselves. Simply put, work IS us.
The consequences of this mean that our self worth and a lot of other feelings are tied up in it. For example, the immigrant worker who is employed as a janitor in order to provide for his family and allow his children to go to college and take care of his wife. Yea it is a menial job, but he is busting his ass to providing financial security for his family and his wife. Though he may have little time with them to profess is love for them, it is through work his way of showing them his love for them.
Lets take it one step further. It is really not that far of a stretch for most guys to think longer hours = more love..and you know what? Most of us would not have it any other way. However, guys assume women understand all this. We just assume that she understands that we are doing it for her. However, If you do assume this then, for the most part, you are wrong.
What most guys over look, which also happens to be the answer to how you show her you really love her, is this: provide EMOTIONAL SECURITY. Sending flowers regularly does helps demonstrate you love her, and it also helps provide that emotional security she needs. It helps her not worry as much about the question “does he love me“. Read More…