Guys that suck – Bad Dates you want to Avoid

guys that suck - types you want to avoid

An important part of dating is not just simply getting out their, it is knowing who to date and who NOT to date. Unfortunately for girls, many many guys simply suck at dating, the results are bad dates you want to avoid. Often times when I talk to girls about their concerns, a lot of recurring themes pop up.

For starters, men are not gentlemen anymore. Something as simple as opening the car door can go a long way with a girl. Most of the time, it just never occurs to a man to do that. If you need more of a hint, then I’m telling you to OPEN the car door for your girl. It works. It is always the little things that make or break dating. Another complaint when I get into online dating,  is three fold:  guys are either way to aggressive, move to fast physically, and act like babies if rejected.

When messaging  a girl on a dating site guys, never ask her to meet you in the first two emails. Never bring up intimate stuff, that includes “wow I like your pic, you have nice legs”… big turn off, and if you send a message and she never replies, GET OVER IT and move on. Do not send hate mail, that is acting like a baby. Maybe you aren’t cute enough for her, maybe you didn’t capture her with your message, maybe shes burned out from online dating. Maybe she gets tons of email, a lot of girls do.

You were offended? Your feeling were hurt? You need me to warm your bottle, and get your blankie? Seriously though, you have to understand that girls on dating sites get a ton of messages. Imagine getting 15 emails a day, most of them are simply “hey”, “your cute”, or “lets go out this Friday”. Online dating, girls get way more attention and have to deal with guys that suck.  From my experience, girls are not nearly as obnoxious; but I was curious about the female view point. So here is what I did.

I signed up at Singlesnet and made a female profile with a very attractive pic of one of my female friends, with her permission of course! The results? I let the profile sit for 5 days. When I checked in, I had an incredible, 100 + emails. Unless your a male model, or Ashton Kutcher. No guy on any dating site gets 100 emails. From this perspective, It is completely reasonable why a girl wouldn’t reply to your individual email. Most guys out their, try this out, it will teach you a lesson, and maybe make you think twice about sending that hate male to the girl who wouldn’t talk to you.

So girls, guys that suck – bad dates you want to avoid. Lets get crackin, here are some red flags when it comes to dating guys:

Controling Type controling type

There is a fine line between protectiveness and admiration, and a control freak. Answer these questions. Does he:

  • tell you what to wear
  • who you can/cannot spend time with,
  • how to drive
  • Is particularly jealous
  • calls all the time
  • buys your love with gifts, cards, flowers
  • Insistent about making plans

If yes to most of these, be careful as you may be dating a guy that sucks.

Jerk type jerk type

The jerk is a bad boy tough guy. Charming and fun, bold and strong. You want him and so do many other girls, but doesn’t settle down.

  • There a lot like the controlling type
  • Has anger management issues
  • Is a bit narcissistic
  • Lacks empathy
  • One sided relationship. (You have to do all the work. You have to call, you have to make time, you have to be affectionate

Secretly married dating a married man

Is your date secretly someone else’s husband? Ever wonder why he mixes up your name sometimes, or why those kids keep calling him daddy? Yea, here are some other red flags:

  • Do you know where he lives? Oh he won’t tell you?
  • Lets go out in a group of friend! Oh wait he avoids the topic of friends?
  • He never makes time for you?
  • You two never really go out out, as in to a movie, or dinner by the lake. It’s always “lets hang out at your place”?

The loser Type k fat - loser type

Like to drink and party a bit too much, not much in the way of ambition, or a job. Their idea of a good time is staying out all night, and sleeping all day.

  • Flips out on other people for small things. Like yelling at the teenage at McDonalds for his burger having pickles, or flipping out on another driver.
  • Misses work a lot
  • Is generally unhappy and depressed.

The  Winner Type male model- winner type

Cute, and you have a connection with him. Plus he has a job and ambition. The winner type is tough to find because he has to be a decent guy, but you also have to have a some basic level of attraction. Here are some good signs to let you know you have a winner on your hands:

  • Is considerate of your feelings. They really do want to know how you are.
  • There self reliant. They don’t want you to take care of them, and they don’t want to take care of you. A meeting of equals.
  • Running your life is not something they want to do because their too busy running their own.
  • They don’t try to change you or FOR you. They are happy with what they are and what you are, and want to meld the two together.
  • The man has ambition and drive. He knows what he want and is taking steps to make it happen.

Opening up is apart of the game. We all want to be liked, yet we all understand that their are simply some aspects of the way we look, the way we act, and the way we think that may prevent this. Be it our religious beliefs, our genes, or the way we were raised. Unless we open up, were not going to get anywhere with anyone. Well end up with a bunch of friendships at best. So when you get to know a guy, pay attention to some of the listed traits above. Hopefully you will pick out the guys that suck, avoid bad dates and find yourself a winner.

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