May 2009

When to End a Long-Term Relationship

Making Out In Tehran
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When do you hit the ejection button on a long term relationship? Well if your crazy in love then obviously that thought does not even occur, but perhaps it should. Let me explain.

Relationships in where one person does not feel as strongly as the other are not uncommon.  Truthfully, itt is one of the reasons why people break up to begin with. So how do you know if that’s your relationship? Well keep reading and see if the below describe you.

(Oh and to be quick, if reading this you realize your the person that has second thoughts, that thinks to themselves, I don’t love them as much as they love me. Do yourself and your gf/bf a favor then, and break it off. No sense in having two unhappy people.)

Average Relationship?

Nothing really to complain about, but it is just average. You have fun spending time together, your family thinks your boyfriend/girlfriend are great. You two get along for the most part, you don’t really fight, everything is just bumping along uneventfully. A 7 out of 10 lets say. So what do you do? Stay or go? Well it is a 7 out of 10 because one half is in love and the other half is not. If your the half that is not, then being in an ambivalent state is the worst:

  • It’s when you realize that what you have is a blessing.
  • That you are lucky to have found someone who loves you, you have grown to be content.
  • The thought of leaving and being alone again, single and looking is something you want to avoid.

If you develop the courage to end a long term relationship. It will in the beginning feel like you made a mistake because inadvertently you will have feeling for the other person. However you will never find true love and happiness.  Just remember, you are holding yourself back from a truly rewarding, not an average.  Your also allowing the other person to find someone who loves them just as much back.

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